Iβve come to the conclusion that mine is. After stepping on the scales for the first time in yonks Iβve made the horrifying discovery that Iβve put on a stone in weight since this time last year. A stone! And itβs all Misery Gutsβs fault. (It really is).
He’s notΒ one of those feeder types you read about. It’s all because he decided to follow a Paleo diet, which basically means you ditch starchy carbohydrates and eat a high protein, high fat diet. Because it was easier and neither of us wanted to produce two sets of dinners Iβve inadvertently been following the diet too, but because Iβm breast feeding and youβre not supposed to cut out whole food groups Iβve been having carbs on the side. And therein lies the problem.
To make sure Iβm producing enough milk for Little B Iβve either been having rice or noodles AND the high protein, high fat meal, or having the meal but then filling up on other things between meals because of that Raging Hunger you get when breastfeeding.
So while Misery Guts has been slowly but surely losing weight, Iβve been slowly but surely piling it on. A whole 6.3 kilos of it. I only put on about 10 kilos when pregnant, which means Iβm now walking around at about the same weight I was at six months pregnant. Yikes.
On the upside, it would appear Iβm not the only one. According to one study I read 62% of people gain six kilos or more after starting a relationship because when both partners feel comfortable standards start to slide. So technically I’m average. The only thing is my relationship is 15 years old.
The good news is thereβs something we can do about it.Β According to the Huffington Post the way to fight relationship weight gain is to turn your relationship into an βactive romanceβ.
They suggest:
1. Swapping date night dinner and a movie for something more active, like walking. (The writer suggests battlefields. Yes, you did read correctly).
2. Cook a healthy meal together at home instead of eating out.Β Of course, you may want to considerΒ detox productsΒ alongside healthy eating to cleanse your body from the effects of unhealthy foods too.
3. Go bowling together for a workout.
The trouble is there arenβt any battlefields near us, cooking is the root ofΒ the problem and I hate bowling. So Iβm going to do what I should have done in the first place and stick to what Iβve always eaten instead of going to extremes β a healthy mix of carbohydrates, protein and fat. Like my all time staple sushi, which latelyΒ hasΒ been reserved for special occasions due toΒ its white rice and sugar content.Β With a bit of wine. And chocolate. And possibly a bit more wine.
Have you ever found yourself in a similar situation? Is your partner making you fat? And do you eat different meals, or the same meals? Iβd love to hear what works for you!
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Mine makes me fat because he keeps “kindly” offering to buy a chinese. I don’t want to sit there with my salad whilst he scoffs takeaways! men!!!!!! #bestandworst
Misery Guts suggests takeaways if it gets to 8pm and neither of us has started dinner. Which happens quite a lot!!
YES. My husband has a big sweet tooth and is always bringing home cakes and pastries for us to share. I’m lucky that I’m breastfeeding and walking a lot at the moment so it hasn’t really had an impact on my weight, but I’m well aware that it’s really bad for me. #bestandworst
The good thing about breast feeding is that you can get away with a lot more. But I’m breast feeding too and am STILL putting on weight!!
We’ve got one set of couple friends who, if they don’t want something, get the other to finish it off so it’s not wasted. Whilst I’m all for not wasting food, I can see the being a really bad idea as you’re eating your own dinner, plus their left overs!
That’s a bad idea – I shudder to think what would happen if we did that!!
oh no! Boo. No my partner says I have made him thin as I ration his treats! It is a standing joke in our family as I am a Dietitian. However, if I let him get his way we would both be the size of houses I’m sure!! Thanks for sharing with #bestandworst x
I knew you would have something constructive to say being a nutritionist! I need someone to ration mine!
YES! My husband is always bringing home sweet treats that he can just eat it and be fine, if I so much as Iook at them then I swear I put on weight! It is so hard though when it comes to cooking dinner for both of you as well because I think if you are not careful you can find your portion sizes increasing to meet theirs! However, I will say that when I was breastfeeding I did put weight on. I was told that you lose weight but it seemed to go the other way with me, mainly because I was so hungry all the time that I was stuffing in my mouth quick snacks – like chocolate eclairs, Whoops! #Coolmumclub
Breastfeeding makes me sooooo hungry too – now I know what the saying ‘I could eat a horse’ means! Luckily Misery Guts doesnβt bring sweet treats home as he’s diabetic, it’s me with the sweet tooth!x
I’m definitely heavier than I was before I got married – although two children are partly to blame for that in my case. Hubby is also bigger than he was without the excuse of having gained weight thanks to pregnancy though!. It’s hard when one of you is following a diet that isn’t ideal for the other – I’m not a fan of cooking multiple meals either. Good luck with trying to lose the extra weight. #coolmumclub
Yes it’s so hard when you want/need different things. Misery Guts is also Type 1 diabetic which adds another factor into the mix…
Ouch – those damn scales! Who invented them anyway? Bet it was a man – too lazy to google now but I bet it was! I’d like to say that I’m hugely lucky as my husband is naturally slim so never discusses food and hates chocolate so never brings home goodies (except wine of course!) – However, it is very infuriating having a slim husband and recounting that you must never date a guy who’s thighs are slimmer than yours! Bet a man wrote that too! Go back to your own diet – it works! #Coolmumclub
Yes I was fine before Misery Guts got funny ideas about changing his diet so I’m definitely going to revert back to my old ways!
I am so lucky I have a super metabolism (don’t hate me) otherwise I would be huge. My hubby is always bringing me treats from the shop, chocolates, cakes and pastries. He also likes us to have a take away most weeks and if he’s cooking tea he gives me a man sized portion. Thank god for having a toddler to run around after all day to burn off all those calories. When I was breastfeeding I could eat so much, it really shocked me how much I could put away xx p.s what’s the point of a paleo diet?I’m curios x #coolmumclub
You sound like one of those annoying people who can eat what they like!! The theory behind Paleo is that it’s very low carb so your blood sugar levels don’t peak and crash, and high protein and fat so keeps you feeling full. Misery Guts is Type 1 diabetic so blood sugar levels are important x
Hmmmm….There is definitely potential for this in our household, due to the hubby and the kids who like loads of stodge in their diet – Hubs fave meal is pie mash and gravy. He has a ridiculously high metabolism and could never be fat if he tried. Thankfully I manage to stay a size 10-12, I call it the ‘having two kids and never sitting down’ diet π
Thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub
x MMT
Pie, mash and gravy – yum! Haven’t had that in ages – please don’t give me ideas!
I hope I’m not because I love take away and fast food great post #bestandworst
I’m sure you’re not!
We are such a tired (lazy) couple that we eat out more often then we should. We just started cooking healthier options and we’re even going on walks and working out together. Hopefully that’ll help because we’ve both gained the married pouch. Thanks for sharing these other ideas! #coolmumclub
We were like this before we had kids and ate out all the time – although we were only married three months before I became pregnant with BB…
Yes!!! Even though I try to do a healthy weekly shop, my hubby will walk in the door after work with chocolate, biscuits, etc.. and I end up hoovering them up mindlessly the next day at home! I am always so pleased when he picks up the treats though…so welcome at the end of a tough day with the kids!
They can’t win can they, poor souls! I know what you mean about hoovering things up the next day too!
ps. #coolmumclub
Thanks so much for coming by!x
hahaha I’m reading after stuffing my face with a box (yes a BOX) of cadburys fingers, I am still 1 stone away from pre pregnancy weight, can’t use the excuse I’m eating for breastfeeding as my 14 month old is only having it a couple of times a day. I cant blame it on the OH though….no wait I can, he always comes into the living room just as we are settling down with a whole host of snacks!!! How am I supposed to resist those??? I’m going to use the reasoning that I’m heavier because I now run so surely I have more muscle than squidge….I dont but that’s what I’m going for π
As long as you’re happy who cares, and if you’re not, take it easy and make small easy changes, don’t deprive yourself of treats (I’ve just replenished my stock of large galaxy bars in the fridge – got to have emergency supplies π )
x x x #coolmumclub
You sound like my kind of person! If you have emergency supplies of wine even better!!
I read this title and thought YES. Those tips are great but like you I’m not a fan of bowling I only go when forced. I can’t be bothered to walk and takeaways on a Friday are just our thing. Looks like I’ll be sitting pretty with you, kinda happy with our new figures! But sometimes I’m surprised I don’t weigh more when we have really lazy weeks #coolmumclub
That’s a positive then! I’m determined to get back to how I was a year ago – come hell or high water!!