Ever feel like life is harder than it needs to be? Do you find yourself getting stressed about things you know you shouldn’t be getting stressed about?
Then read on!
As a work-at-home mum of three I often feel like life is harder than it needs to be, and the thing is I know that a lot of the time it’s me who’s making life harder in the first place. What with mum guilt and trying to be all things to all people and general stuff I know I’m my own worst enemy sometimes (ok a lot of the time).
If that sounds like you too the good news is we’re not alone. Life coach and personal development expert Carole Ann Rice has identified 5 ways we make life hard for ourselves – and more importantly how to stop!
5 ways we make life hard for ourselves (& what to do about it)
1. Overthinking things. “When we spend too long overthinking something, we throw ourselves into more fear and doubt,” says Carole Ann, who is one of the UK’s leading life coaches. “Overthinking something is like putting the brakes on and hesitating. Instead, trust yourself to make a decision in the moment and quickly move on. When we dwell in thought, we can exaggerate details and invent a whole situation that simply never existed in the first place.”
2. Give up on perfectionism. “Perfectionists want everything to be ‘just so’,” she says. “But life doesn’t work that way – you could end up spending three hours on an email when three minutes would suffice. Perfectionists make a lot of work for themselves; learn that progress is better than perfectionism and that nobody cares about the finer nuances of minor things.”
3. Not giving yourself enough time. “Set your morning alarm earlier so that you have time for breakfast, a shower, and whatever else needs to be done,” says Carole Ann. “Always build in a safety net of time when doing anything from replying to an email to meeting someone in town. If you’re constantly rushing around, you’re bound to make mistakes and be more stressed in the process.”
4. Not planning ahead. “Planning ahead makes everything easier,” Carole Ann says. “Make sure you have enough time to do the things you need to do – allow yourself space in between meetings and always have fresh food in the house so you don’t rely on a takeaway in the heat of the moment.”
5. Being a YES person. “When we commit to things that we don’t want to do, we feel resentment,” she says. “Learn to say no if you don’t want to do something – your time is precious, and your opinion is important. You don’t always have to be a people pleaser, especially when you barely have enough time to deal with your own issues.”
Are you guilty of making life hard for yourself like me? Are there any tips you can take from the above? I’d love to know which advice resonates with you!
Carole Ann is winner of Best Coach in the Best Business Women’s Awards 2017 and works with her clients to improve relationships, diet, energy, health & wellbeing and confidence. For more information click here. And for help finding a therapist in your area click here.