We’re all familiar with the phrase ‘do as I say, not as I do’. And we also know that kids learn from what they see.
Knowing both of these things is all very well, but how can we make sure we’re setting the best example for our kids so they grow up being the best they possibly can be?
As a mum of three with baby number four on the way I know I’m not the role model I’d like to be at all times, especially when the straw finally breaks the camel’s back (usually about five minutes after everyone should have been out of the door in the morning) and I seriously lose my sh*t.
At times like that I know I’m probably setting the worst possible example for the kids and I do worry about what they’ll remember and look back on when they’re grown-ups. But at the same time, we’re all human – and there’s only so much one human being can take!
Mummy (or daddy) meltdowns aside, how can we try and be mindful of how we act and what the kids learn from our behaviour? In this collaborative post here are 5 simple ways to try and be a good role model for your kids.
5 simple ways to be a good role model for your kids
1. Take care of yourself
The importance of looking after yourself can’t be underestimated, because how can you look after someone else if you’re not looking after yourself and your mental health? Whether you’ve got a demanding job or problems at home like going through a divorce with family law solicitors, it’s important to show your kids that spending time on yourself no matter what is going on is not selfish but needed.
2. Show and expect respect
Respect is something that not every person walking around in life has for other people. By showing your children respect, you are making it known that you value their opinions, and you value their existence, which in return, you would hope that they give back.
3. Educate them on love
Showing love and stressing the importance of love is one of the most important qualities you can teach your children. Showing love to your partner, family, friends, neighbours and work colleagues can be very influential and enable them to grow up to be able to give love and to receive it.
4. Be attentive to their needs
When your child is asking for your attention in a nice manner, don’t ignore them. Put down your phone or whatever it is you’re doing to show interest – and make sure that interest is genuine. Paying attention comes in handy with lots of things in life, from their attention span in school to wherever they end up working as an adult.
5. Be kind
In a world where you can be anything, be kind. That’s a phrase I’ve seen bandied about a lot on social media, and I think it’s so true. Kindness costs nothing, but means so much and can go so far.
Do you worry about being a good role model for your kids? Is there anything you’d add to this list? I’d love to know what!
This is a collaborative post.